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Language and DialogueVol. 10:3 (2020) ► pp.340–368
The risks of misunderstandings in family discourse
Home as a special space of interaction
Arto Mustajoki | National Research University Higher School of Economics, Russia | University of Helsinki, Finland
Based on a large dataset of Russian material, the paper presents these general features of the home: a place to spend leisure time containing a long-established group of different ages and sexes free to move about in their environment These factors lead to tension between communicants and a diversity of topics of conversation. Inadequate recipient design is an overarching trigger for misunderstanding caused by the speaker. It derives from poor concentration on interaction and the common ground fallacy, and leads to the frequent use of indirect and elliptical expressions. Inadequate concentration causes the recipient to non-listen and overguess. Finally, misunderstandings occur because of mishearings, misinterpretations and misreferences. Misinterpretation may concern the content, intention or mode of the message.
Article outline
- 1.Introduction
- 2.General features of FD
- 3.Reflections of the general features in interaction
- 4.Triggers for miscommunication
- 5.Species of misunderstanding
- 6.Analysis of the material
- 7.Conclusion
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